Pornography, Guilt, and Marriage Part 5 of 5

Since those momentous days, Tom's outlook on life has indeed changed. In his second article written five years later, Tom con­cluded, “I have only one option: to seek God with all my heart, so that God may continue his process of healing and bring me to sexual fulfillment - at home, with my wife, where I belong.”  (This story well illustrates that ethical falls are not necessarily fatal to a relationship if the proper process if followed says Marriage Counseling Naples FL).

Guilt in Proper Perspective

Guilt is a terrible feeling.  Fully admitted, it strips away any facade that would protect us from its pain. Nonetheless, without it, says Marriage Counseling Bonita Springs FL, we are nothing more than brute beasts.  A key reason Westley Allan Dodd (executed 1993) was sentenced to death by hanging for kidnapping, raping, and murdering three little boys was because he expressed no remorse during his trial. To the contrary, he told the jury that if he ever had the chance, he would do it again and "enjoy every minute of it."

Who needs guilt?  We do asserts Marriage Counseling Cape Coral FL. The question is, what do we do with it?  Do we try to convince ourselves that what we are doing is not really all that bad?  For those tired of bearing its weight, consider Christ's invitation, "Come to Me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest."  As French author E. Guerin discovered generations ago, “When the soul has laid down its faults at the feet of God, it feels as though it had wings.”

Analysis

There are at least four components to Tom’s recovery.  The first was fear.  Tom was given a rare glimpse of the future when he met with his friend Steve and saw Steve’s debased condition.  Second, more than just asking God to help him stop what he was doing, Tom asked God to help him replace what he was doing with something else.  Third, Tom confessed his sin to his wife, bringing it out in the open where it lost its power.  Fourth, throughout the time he was in sin’s grip, Tom never called evil good in order to eradicate his guilt.

Though Tom struggled with pornography, his path to freedom provides a universal blueprint for overcoming most any sin or moral lapse.  What issues are your struggling with that are negatively impacting your marriages?

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