Pornography, Guilt, and Marriage Part 1 of 5

The primary source for that article came from Leadership Journal, the Fall 1982 and Winter 1988 issues.  Because of the length, the article is divided into five parts.

It All Started When . . .

Tom, was away from home and sitting alone in his motel room.  (As we shall see, being alone, free from normal constraints is a time when people can readily get into trouble, says Marriage Counseling Estero FL).   Flipping through the city's entertainment guide, Tom repeatedly found himself turning back to the advertisement of an exotic dancer.“A former Miss Peach Bowl win­ner,” the caption read.

At first, he dismissed her show as out of bounds. But the longer he sat around watching TV, the more the image of this strip-tease dancer played upon his mind.  “Why not?” he asked himself. A variety of rationalizations bols­tered his resolve to go. Before long, Tom found himself in the back seat of a cab headed for the seamy side of town.

The taxi driver dropped him off several blocks from the bar. Given his strong reputation of honesty back home and as a family man, Tom wanted to play it safe. Even though he was a stranger in town, he glanced nervously over his shoulder as he walked closer to his destination, and then entered quickly.  (The anxiousness and guilt Tom was feeling should have been a clear warning signal to stop what he was intending to do.  But, notes Marriage Counseling Fort Myers FL), the temptation proved to be too great.

           

Miss Peach Bowl was every­thing the ad claimed she would be. Tom was captivated as she went through her routine. When he exited the establishment a couple of hours later, everything was same and yet everything had changed. He had crossed a line previously out of bounds. He was still the same person but his perception was now somehow different. And it wasn't long after that he wanted more. He started to regularly frequent strip joints, sexually oriented magazines, was thepatronize adult movie theaters, and view live peep shows.  (The downward cycle has now begun observes Marriage Counseling Cape Coral FL ).

continued in part 2

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