What is the Difference Between Doing Wrong and Being Evil? Implications for Marriage Part 2 of 2

The woman is then murdered, seemingly by a burglar. After the crime is committed, the doctor is mortified by what has happened. His conscience is eating away at him.  He is reaching a breaking point.  He feels he cannot  handle his guilt any longer. He is ready to confess his crime to the police but realizes that doing so would also implicate his brother. He remains in a state of conflict while continuing to delay in his confession.

Then one morning, after weeks of inner turmoil, the man awakens to a bright sunny day.  Inexplicably, his burden seems lighter.  He no longer feels the need to confess. His pangs of guilt don’t seem as oppressive. He is surrounded by the warmth of those who love him and the comforts of his privileged world.  The murder is attributed to another man, a killer responsible for other murders.  He decides to leave his troubles behind and take his family on an extended vacation. When they return all is fine,  safe and secure as before.  He returns to his thriving practice.As Marriage Counseling Bonita Springs put it, the pangs of guilt recede and are no longer felt.  He begins to forget ignore the terrible crime he committed and focus on the here and now.

In both of these stories, each of these men committed evil deeds.  But only the doctor became an evil man.   His heart became callous and closed off to the evil he committed notes Marriage Counseling Fort Myers.

Both of these stories are pictures of extreme behavior.  For purposes of this article, I am not looking at the fictitious endings, but at the response of each of these two individuals to their guilt.   Over time, notes Marriage Counseling Estero, in virtually every marriage, each spouse will do something wrong.  It may be an exaggeration or outright lie, disguising of monies spent, or concealing an affair.  Whatever it is, you have two choices: to tell the truth or to hide it.  Question:  Which path do you think most often leads to your becoming a better person and having a stronger relationship?

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Pornography, Guilt, and Marriage Part 5 of 5

Since those momentous days, Tom's outlook on life has indeed changed. In his second article written five years later, Tom con­cluded, “I have only one option: to seek God with all my heart, so that God may continue his process of healing and bring me to sexual fulfillment - at home, with my wife, where I belong.”  (This story well illustrates that ethical falls are not necessarily fatal to a relationship if the proper process if followed says Marriage Counseling Naples FL).

Guilt in Proper Perspective

Guilt is a terrible feeling.  Fully admitted, it strips away any facade that would protect us from its pain. Nonetheless, without it, says Marriage Counseling Bonita Springs FL, we are nothing more than brute beasts.  A key reason Westley Allan Dodd (executed 1993) was sentenced to death by hanging for kidnapping, raping, and murdering three little boys was because he expressed no remorse during his trial. To the contrary, he told the jury that if he ever had the chance, he would do it again and "enjoy every minute of it."

Who needs guilt?  We do asserts Marriage Counseling Cape Coral FL. The question is, what do we do with it?  Do we try to convince ourselves that what we are doing is not really all that bad?  For those tired of bearing its weight, consider Christ's invitation, "Come to Me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest."  As French author E. Guerin discovered generations ago, “When the soul has laid down its faults at the feet of God, it feels as though it had wings.”

Analysis

There are at least four components to Tom’s recovery.  The first was fear.  Tom was given a rare glimpse of the future when he met with his friend Steve and saw Steve’s debased condition.  Second, more than just asking God to help him stop what he was doing, Tom asked God to help him replace what he was doing with something else.  Third, Tom confessed his sin to his wife, bringing it out in the open where it lost its power.  Fourth, throughout the time he was in sin’s grip, Tom never called evil good in order to eradicate his guilt.

Though Tom struggled with pornography, his path to freedom provides a universal blueprint for overcoming most any sin or moral lapse.  What issues are your struggling with that are negatively impacting your marriages?

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