What is the Difference Between Doing Wrong and Being Evil? Implications for Marriage Part 2 of 2

The woman is then murdered, seemingly by a burglar. After the crime is committed, the doctor is mortified by what has happened. His conscience is eating away at him.  He is reaching a breaking point.  He feels he cannot  handle his guilt any longer. He is ready to confess his crime to the police but realizes that doing so would also implicate his brother. He remains in a state of conflict while continuing to delay in his confession.

Then one morning, after weeks of inner turmoil, the man awakens to a bright sunny day.  Inexplicably, his burden seems lighter.  He no longer feels the need to confess. His pangs of guilt don’t seem as oppressive. He is surrounded by the warmth of those who love him and the comforts of his privileged world.  The murder is attributed to another man, a killer responsible for other murders.  He decides to leave his troubles behind and take his family on an extended vacation. When they return all is fine,  safe and secure as before.  He returns to his thriving practice.As Marriage Counseling Bonita Springs put it, the pangs of guilt recede and are no longer felt.  He begins to forget ignore the terrible crime he committed and focus on the here and now.

In both of these stories, each of these men committed evil deeds.  But only the doctor became an evil man.   His heart became callous and closed off to the evil he committed notes Marriage Counseling Fort Myers.

Both of these stories are pictures of extreme behavior.  For purposes of this article, I am not looking at the fictitious endings, but at the response of each of these two individuals to their guilt.   Over time, notes Marriage Counseling Estero, in virtually every marriage, each spouse will do something wrong.  It may be an exaggeration or outright lie, disguising of monies spent, or concealing an affair.  Whatever it is, you have two choices: to tell the truth or to hide it.  Question:  Which path do you think most often leads to your becoming a better person and having a stronger relationship?

If you would like to build stronger bonds with your husband or wife but don’t know how to “handle the truth,” Dr. Ken Newberger, who holds a Ph.D., Conflict Analysis and Resolution, can help.  If there is a desire by both parties to repair or save the marriage, he will gently lead you and your spouse to a place of understanding where reality can be processed and real healing can occur.  Learn more about his approach and process on his website:  http://www.MarriageCounselingAlt.com/couples.htm. He serves all of Southwest Florida, including the cities of Naples, Fort Myers, Cape Coral, Estero, and Bonita Springs FL.  Or, call him at 239-689-4266 for a free phone consultation.  Experience the freedom of a guilt-free marriage once again.